tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20587008.post932630334100054596..comments2024-01-25T03:56:02.403-08:00Comments on Presbyterian Bloggers: Read and Learn: Some Thoughts on Special NeedsMirandahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16380861596539183040noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20587008.post-85047295777911734452010-05-02T19:14:38.617-07:002010-05-02T19:14:38.617-07:00It's interesting to me to watch the other kids...It's interesting to me to watch the other kids with Ellie. I can tell which parents are most comfortable with Ellie by seeing how their children interact with her - since even very young children frequently pick up on their parents' discomfort.<br /><br />I don't think inclusiveness is about financial resources as much as it's about respect for others. ALL others. (And patience and compassion and flexibility.) <br /><br />:-)Sarahlynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13658866017847046987noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20587008.post-75743072928119701602010-05-02T17:53:54.710-07:002010-05-02T17:53:54.710-07:00SarahLynn: Thank you for commenting about your oh ...SarahLynn: Thank you for commenting about your oh so very personal experience with this. I really value your thoughts as I try use my time in seminary to figure out what church should look like. I have heard there are places where they don't feel as though they have the resources to minister to special needs children and that is very sad to me.<br /><br />I am taking a class on Presbyterian Polity right now and inclusiveness is ALL OVER the Book of Order. It seems like we make it harder than it needs to be. <br /><br />And I am sure your little Ellie could teach us all quite a bit. I think the question the rest of us need to answer is will we let her?Pinkhammerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11796604327310806617noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20587008.post-16630460831725307732010-04-28T20:33:40.165-07:002010-04-28T20:33:40.165-07:00My 6-year-old daughter brings the spirit of Christ...My 6-year-old daughter brings the spirit of Christ into the sanctuary when she enters. She glows from within with her pure joy at being in church.<br /><br />She talks too loudly, sings off key, and doesn't recite the Lord's Prayer in perfect monotony with the rest of us.<br /><br />But she's there. She's doing it. She's participating. She <i>gets it</i>. She might not win at Bible trivia, but she could teach all of us a few things about:<br /><br />1) Pure joy<br />2) Honesty<br />3) Unselfconscious expression<br />4) Love and compassion<br />5) Paying attention to others. Ellie knows far more about the relationships between people (which parents go with which children, whether someone's happy or sad) than most kids - or most adults.<br /><br />There's a new young adult with Down syndrome at our church. He attends evening Bible Study alone, sometimes, and his comments are not always exactly on topic. Sometimes they run a little long.<br /><br />But the minister listens to him and responds appropriately, not acting like the young man's contributions are an interruption.<br /><br />Sure, a lot of inclusiveness and <i>respect</i> comes from the clergy and the staff. But at least as much comes from the other members of the congregation.Sarahlynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13658866017847046987noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20587008.post-36496380231636310382010-04-28T20:27:12.405-07:002010-04-28T20:27:12.405-07:00My daughter has Down syndrome. She has physical a...My daughter has Down syndrome. She has physical and developmental disabilities. <br /><br />We are very involved with our church. When my daughter was just a few months old, a member of the children, youth, and families committee called me to ask what we needed, what would be helpful to us so that our daughter and our family felt fully included in the life of the congregation.<br /><br />In those early years, all the volunteers and employees in the nursery let us know how much they enjoyed and appreciated my daughter. They never made us feel that caring for our child was a burden or even a challenge. (The same is true for the music director and others who've worked with us in various capacities.)<br /><br />When Ellie reached school age, I had some conversations with the CE director about inclusion. She asked a stay-at-home mom in the congregation who used to work as an occupational therapist to help Ellie participate with her Sunday School class. She did that for a semester, before everyone - Ellie, the other kids, the Sunday School teachers - was comfortable with Ellie attending Sunday School on her own without an "aide."<br /><br />Sometimes Ellie's behavior in church is not perfectly typical. But there are always people around us who make a point of saying hi and telling us how much they enjoy Ellie's participation.<br /><br />Because - more in the next comment -Sarahlynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13658866017847046987noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20587008.post-50298232974613752222010-04-28T11:44:43.471-07:002010-04-28T11:44:43.471-07:00Thank you for the comments and recommendations! I...Thank you for the comments and recommendations! I sincerely appreciate it!Pinkhammerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11796604327310806617noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20587008.post-82689429884266393532010-04-28T11:09:32.716-07:002010-04-28T11:09:32.716-07:00I highly recommend a new documentary from Diva Com...I highly recommend a new documentary from Diva Communications called "A Place For All: Faith And Community for People with Disabilities". It is an excellent interfaith examination of faith communities that have succeeded in addressing this issue. Check it out <a href="http://divacommunications.com/aplace" rel="nofollow">here</a>.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09494353589504353365noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20587008.post-29789492199624268902010-04-28T08:43:28.137-07:002010-04-28T08:43:28.137-07:00I enjoyed your blog on the "special needs&quo...I enjoyed your blog on the "special needs" people in our society. I am a volunteer with Special Olympics Virginia and have been since 1990. This group of individuals is the most loving, caring, non-discriminating group I have ever worked with. Their love and affection for one another and for the volunteers is completely unconditional. I have learned a great deal by working with this group over the years, and continue to learn each time I go to an event. The staff at SOVA is very comitted and work long hours to make sure the athletes have the greatest experience possible. My hat is off to those folks, and to anyone who has a special needs child. Your statement about the hospital visit is so true. We can't be sure who benefits from the love and endearment that results from God's blessing.runnin 2 Himhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07249935670001769491noreply@blogger.com